Tuesday, October 15, 2013


Life has become a lot more complicated than it was before. Some say that it is circumstantial, while others accept it as assiduously inevitable. Changes that were brought about by advancements and ultimately leading to the sophisticated intricacies of daily life is a bitter pill to swallow, but it is part of life.

It is comforting to know that we can make an active choice to observe simplicity in our decisions and have the foresight to know the possible outcome of our decisions and minimize its consequences.

Facebook for example is an innovative way of connecting with your friends and posting pictures, videos or anything under the sun that you may think that is interesting for others to see and basically a way of expressing oneself that may gain the approval of your friends by "liking" or commenting on your posts.

I, for one was just influenced to have a Facebook account and I thought, why not try it out? It sounds very interesting and exciting to try out a newer and more innovative social networking site compared to the now defunct, "Friendster". It was a venue to connect with friends and share your personal thoughts, feelings and even jokes.

Recently however, I have decided to deactivate it for security reasons and for blocking out negativity because it has recently been a venue for ranting, personal attacks (both directly and indirectly by the so-called netizens) and even circulation of libelous, absurd and irrelevant information.

I personally have nothing against Facebook and its creators, because it can literally bring together long lost friends and relatives. It can also be used not only for extensive professional and personal connections, but for business as well.

However, it has become another medium to express the negative and excessive side of human nature because of the "virtual freedom" that we experience online. Just like any democratic system, it is prone to the irresponsible thinking that freedom equates to absolute leniency which is of course idiotic.

It's liberating and definitely fulfilling to know that individuality can always be stronger than any social trend and Facebook is practically something that we can do without. An article by Brian Hinson casually, but bluntly sums up what I mean about the irrelevance of Facebook.


Since then, I have started living a simpler life - secure and devoid of unnecessary anxieties and negative vibes. This is probably one of those decisions in my life that I will never regret and it's also because of my "Godmother" whom I admire and respect tremendously who has influenced me with this new perspective of simplicity.

Another perfect example is an article from Yahoo! that I stumbled upon and is about a mother of 3  (half Malaysian, Chinese and Filipina) who posted a photo of herself (who is a picture of good health) and her boys.  According to the article, there were a lot of criticisms about the said photograph and most of it were so demeaning and downright insulting.

I perfectly agree with what she said:

“I'm sorry you took an image and resonated with it in such a negative way. I won't go into details that I struggled with my genetics, had an eating disorder, work full time owning two businesses, have no nanny, am not naturally skinny and do not work as a personal trainer,” she wrote, in part. “What I WILL say is this. What you interpret is not MY fault. It's yours. The first step in owning your life, your body and your destiny is to OWN the thoughts that come out of your own head. I didn't create them. You created them. So if you want to continue ‘hating’ this image, get used to hating many other things for the rest of your life.”    

“I just hope that the person who feels completely overwhelmed can see they can control their own destiny. To know that there’s no excuse for not making time for yourself.” - Maria Kang

You can read more about this article here:

We go through life searching for our own "nirvana", make our own mark in society or just find our place under the sun, and when we do find it - some people just have a habit of second guessing you, misjudging and maliciously maligning you as if you know them from Adam and have offended them in some way. They fail to realize that it is not being overly-narcissistic why we post these kinds of photos, but because we are proud of what we have achieved and we just want to share it and inspire other people.

It is so easy to be overly-judgmental of others, but ironically do not want to be treated the same way. It is this basic truth why I decided to "streamline" and forego with "Facebook" that seems to be the most ubiquitous trend, but the most abused as well. Obviously these reactions are borne out of an underlying insecurity and is therefore a compensatory mechanism for something that they lack.

This doesn't mean of course that ALL social networking sites are the same in this regard and I have learned that "choice" is a powerful tool that can be wielded to actively avoid pessimistic and mentally-corroded people who habitually bash" others out of some delusional whim. It is better to have few friends, but confidently knowing that they are true even behind your back as opposed to having 500 or 1000 friends in Facebook (seriously?? all of these people are really your friends?) just for bragging rights.

Bruce Lee sums it up appropriately:

"Adapt what is useful, reject what is useless, and add what is specifically your own" 

 - streamlining at its best

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